John 8:1-11
The older I get, the less excited I am about theory . . . and the more I care about reality. Who cares if the stuff that flows from my pen stimulates the intellect and gives folks fodder for philosophizing? So what if these words tickle ears and answer questions nobody is asking? Provocative, relevant, issue-related writing with enough creativity and honesty to keep the reader reading is what interests me . . . not much else. And so every once in a while I frown, squint, and peer objectively at a page and ask hard questions: Am I in touch? Is this worth mentioning? Does it scratch an itch? Will it make any difference?
I did that after I wrote a column on an “affair.” Just decided to face the facts, say it straight, and risk being bold rather than subtle. Another risk is being overzealous and offensive. There’s a fine line between being necessarily straightforward and needlessly blunt. Jesus, who never once compromised with sins of the flesh, had a remarkable way of keeping the sinner’s dignity intact, a la John 8. I love that about Him as much as anything He modeled.
Anyway, the upshot of all this is a letter that I received in response to my “affair” column. The person who wrote it reinforced my hope that my words would indeed connect and communicate. Here are a few excerpts.
I rarely write letters like this! But I feel so strongly about what you’ve written. . . . I was the unfaithful partner in a marriage. Although it was many years ago, it is still a painful memory. It did happen before I knew the Lord, and it has been His grace that has healed and sustained our marriage. My point in writing at all is really to commend and encourage you to continue to address these very difficult subjects. A stand must be taken and too many evade the confrontation. . . . Thank you for your convictions and the courage to speak on them.
So I include this here to ask, again, if this speaks to anyone out there. Perhaps you are still on the fence. Still trying to break off an illicit relationship and come back to your original commitment. Wondering if you dare. If you can. If it’s worth it.
You do the same. Walk back into your mate’s arms, and never walk away again.
As Jesus said, “Go and sin no more.”
Telling the truth in love can uncover the lie of sin. Examine your own life with this in mind.
Taken from Charles R. Swindoll, Day by Day with Charles Swindoll (Nashville: W Publishing Group, 2000), 191. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
Article Summary:
Living in our permissive culture, it’s sometimes hard for Christians to confront a person who is not honoring his or her marriage vows and who isn’t being faithful to his or her spouse. Chuck encourages pastors and all of us to take the risk and call sin, sin, regardless of the response we receive. Jesus was unafraid and uncompromising when confronting those caught up in sin, and we need to follow His example.
Keywords: affair, adultery, relevance, unfaithfulness, marriage, illicit relationship, truth, sin, commitment
About the Author // David Carl
David Carl serves in Children’s Ministries as children’s pastor at Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco, Texas. He oversees the church’s Preschool, Elementary and Preteen Ministries. During the past twelve years, Dave has served on staff at Insight for Living, his primary role was as creator and creative director of Paws & Tales, a weekly children’s radio program. Dave has also served as a volunteer at Stonebriar for many years and is excited to now be serving on staff at Stonebriar.